17 Jan Parents must be present for children during child custody issues
Divorce can be stressful for everyone involved — that includes a couple’s children. While the couple is trying to make life-altering decisions, kids are processing their own emotions. Often times, children do not react in the ways that adults expect — especially when major child custody changes are made. During or following a divorce, children may suddenly become uncooperative, angry or sullen. Kids may also have a difficult time dealing with their emotions and processing everything that has been going on.
In these cases, it is up to the parents to be there to support their child. Experts suggest that parents really focus on their behavior so that they are in the best place possible to help the child and understand what that child is going through. First, experts warn parents to take note of how they are thinking about their children during the divorce process. Parents should avoid thinking that children are acting out on purpose or that they are somehow to blame for the stress in their lives.
Parents should also take note of their body language. They should make sure they are calm and relaxed and able to deal with the child. Using relaxation techniques may be helpful to keep the parent from reacting poorly in a particular situation. Similarly, parents should understand their own emotions. Parents need to be able to recognize when they are stressed, angry and overwhelmed. By recognizing these emotions, parents may be able to put themselves in a better place to focus on their children.
While parents are trying to cope with their children, they are also in the process of making very important child custody decisions. Parents should make sure they understand their legal rights during the process, and know that all decisions should be made in the best interests of the children.
Source: The Huffington Post, “Staying Calm When Kid’s Lose It During Divorce,” Dr. Peggy Kruger Tietz, Jan. 13, 2014